How can programmers improve mental internal friction?

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Hello, brother Yang , I'm your fan , Also has been concerned about official account . I want to ask you about your career . My work experience ：2018 What I did in is operation and maintenance , Also do the work of operation and maintenance development .2020 year , I have done front-end and back-end development for more than a year , front end react+python django Back end + database , Recently doing Python Business development ,rpa Direction , stay windows Realize automatic instructions on the system .

My confusion is like this ： I'm not from a technical background , The first degree is high school graduation , In fact, it's good to learn from childhood , But because introverted, not good at communication , Poor relationship with classmates leads to tiredness , Finally, I didn't go to college , Later, through adult education 、 By means of online education, I got a bachelor's degree in planning .

20 In my early years , Made another big mistake , Should have gone out to work , But because of introversion and the impact of the college entrance examination, there is psychological trauma （ After treatment by a psychologist ）, This leads to 5-6 I haven't dared to enter the society in years , So the best time was wasted by me .

Later, because I like computers , Start self-study and report to the training class , After mastering some skills, start operation and maintenance , Towards a computer career .

Now the confusion is ： Because I always want to do development , But I don't have a science degree , Nor is it a unified undergraduate , Ups and downs to now , I want to find Python The backend development , If you can't find it, continue operation and maintenance development . But I heard that the Internet industry has 35 Age crisis , I'm not too far away , I'm worried about my education , And the situation of getting married halfway may be unemployed in a few years .

Listen to colleagues ： The upper limit of being a product manager is actually higher , It's not easy 35 Age crisis , Is my situation suitable ？ What kind of ability is needed to make products ？

in addition , I also want to have my own career slowly , For example, through the layout of sidelines , Even doing business and entrepreneurship , Do you have any suggestions for this ？

This is my reply to him ：

brother , I read your message , Very touching . I think you should be a classmate with great spiritual internal friction , Of course, spiritual internal friction exists in everyone , for instance ： What have you done wrong , This thing will continue to torture you . I also have similar internal friction .

But I think something more important than your career planning , It is to solve the problem of spiritual internal friction first , If you fail in the college entrance examination, it will affect 5,6 Years of precious time , This is true and should not . For me , It may affect one or two months , But soon I will find a new goal in life .

This internal friction will lead to entanglement and fear of not getting results , This fear will make you unable to move . In fact, what is more terrible than failure is fear itself . Many times we just have to take the first step , Even failure in the follow-up is not enough to fear .

To overcome this spiritual internal friction , I suggest reading more autobiographies and history books of great men , Look at how many failures and pains these powerful people have experienced , How to carry it finally 、 How to overcome , And then find some strength to move forward , This may help you .

About career planning , The so-called programmer 35 Age crisis , Indeed, some exist . But if you are really interested in coding as you say , Persistent persistence and deepening coding This matter , stay 35 You may have become a technical backbone or even a technical expert before the age of , Maybe even in 35 I have earned the capital to retire before the age of .

I have many programmers around me ,35 I have earned the wealth that can only be accumulated in other industries for decades , Also have 40 Architects who are still fighting on the front line in their teens . Tell the truth , Not enough for fear , This is really not a big problem .

You mentioned that product managers are less likely to be eliminated , This is a false proposition , Actually 35 The year-old crisis is more caused by the competition for Internet talents , Product managers cannot escape this category .

But only a small number of Internet people will be eliminated in middle age , May be 35 year 、 It could be 45 year , Or you may work until you retire . It depends on the environment , For example, foreign enterprises 、 Big factory 、 A small company 、 State owned enterprises and so on , It depends more on whether there are corresponding competitive resources at the corresponding age .

In short, there is no need to worry 35 Give up the programmer career in the age crisis , This thinking logic still belongs to the category of spiritual internal friction .

You mentioned doing sidelines and even entrepreneurship , You can put it first , When you find the main direction of the workplace , And have a deep accumulation in this direction , I believe the opportunity of sideline is also good 、 Opportunities for entrepreneurship , Will take the initiative to find you , Instead of you thinking hard here .

What you should do now is to focus . Look at your description , You are doing the work of operation and maintenance , I also want to find a position of technology or product manager . How much of this idea comes from the heart , How much is due to the external description of salary and future ？

First, remove the later influence , Make this decision by yourself , This is the process of focusing .

After making a choice , Positive action , Whether it's continuing operation and maintenance or transferring to technology or product manager , If it's really suitable for you , Then go on firmly . With every day of hard work to achieve a little growth .

And this process , It is also the process of saying goodbye to spiritual internal friction .

Finish answering this friend's question , Yangge also emo 了 ,emo The reason is that this guy is really too spiritual 、 It's too tangled .

In fact, we never encounter this kind of situation , Whether it's a poor family 、 Low starting point , Or some setbacks in life and work , It may torture us for a long time , All kinds of decisions and actions that affect us .

But remember ： Fear and fear are really useless , Internal friction with oneself can only bring negative effects . Only quickly cut off mental internal friction , To move on , Otherwise, it must be hesitating and wasting time .